Many people seek out counselling because they are experiencing emotional pain that is having an effect on their day to day life and their wellbeing.
Imagine if you had a splinter that was causing you irritation. You probably wouldn’t go rushing off to the doctor at first.
You would maybe try and remove the splinter yourself. Or you might wait and see if it would work itself out.
If it didn’t work itself out of it’s own accord or if you couldn’t remove it, you might ask someone – a friend or relative – to try and remove it for you.
Only if everything you tried didn’t work – and especially if the splinter was getting deeper and causing you pain, then you might seek out a professional to help you.
Just like dealing with the splinter – some people are able to deal with life’s events themselves and some people have friends or acquaintances that they can sit and talk with when things get tough and this can be really helpful.
But sometimes – when we cannot deal with whatever is going on for us and people in our lives aren’t able to help (or maybe we don’t want to talk to someone we know about whatever it is that is troubling us) – then professional counselling may be a way to alleviate the pain.
A counsellor is a professional who is trained to work at therapeutic depth with their client.
Counselling is a process that falls under the term ‘talking therapy‘. During this process we will explore the issues or problems that are causing your life to not ‘work’ for you or are causing you pain, suffering or upset.
I firmly believe that you know what is best for you and through counselling you can become more self-aware and understand how to be your own adviser.
In a safe, confidential environment, I will encourage you to talk about your problems, to uncover the root causes of what is causing you to suffer. This could be looking at how you relate to other people in different aspects of your life and any thoughts and beliefs that you have about your self.
The ultimate aim is that when you finish the process, you will be in a different psychological place and will have overcome what ever it was that was causing you pain or be able to cope more effectively with painful, difficult life events.
Everyone is an individual, so there is not a ‘one size fits all‘ counselling approach. I am a person centred counsellor, so part of the process is about finding out what works for you and using the various tools that I have in my counselling toolbox to create an approach that is right for you.
I feel humbled and privileged to counsel people, to be let into their lives and trusted with their feelings.
Sometimes, the hardest step is to reach out and ask for help and I never underestimate the bravery and courage of the people that I counsel.